It’s important that your dog understands that you are higher in the household’s social hierarchy than he is. In order to maintain a safe, functional relationship with your dog, you must understand the definition of alpha status. From a human viewpoint, it will seem cruel, but your dog would be happier if he knows that someone else is in control of all of his actions, including his daily conduct and obedience levels. It’s impossible to have a healthy owner-dog relationship if he doesn’t see you as the clear-cut authority figure: he needs to realise that he is in the chain of command below you. read here
The first step in coping with generalised defiance is to reestablish your superiority, which can be achieved by simple dog training:
Here are few pointers about how to go about it:
You must always leave before your dog when leaving the house or driving. This is unmistakable alpha behaviour: only the alpha leaves first in a dog’s view. If you let him out of the house or car ahead of you, you’re telling him or her that you’re smarter than me and that you can go first because you’re the one who makes the decisions. Inside doors are less necessary, but any time you leave the house or car to go outside, you must use this command to make him “wait” for you before you release him with the “Yes” command release-word.
Force him to wait for his meal. Your family and you must still eat before him or her, even though it means he or she will have to wait an additional half hour or so for his lunch. Make him sit and wait for you to allow him to eat when you put his food down for him. Maintain a varied feeding schedule for him so that he is still mindful that you are in control of his food and that he does not develop assumptions of when he should be fed.
Don’t give him unrestricted access to the whole building. The house is your home, and you’re letting him or her in. Remind him that you’re inviting him into your den and that it’s a privilege, not a right, for him to be there – but switch between allowing him inside and sending him outside for a half-hour or so. As well, keep those parts of the house solely for your use (such as your bed, certain pieces of furniture, or some rooms).